Little more than two weeks ago, my brother put our dad into an assisted living place. The only reason why I knew he was doing it is because the Caretaker risked her employment and sent me a text message letting me know that it was in process. By the time I got to my childhood home, Dad was gone and people were packing up the house. I was verbally informed that my brother has medical power of attorney, and my parents CPA has financial power of attorney and I am out of the will. I was given 10 minutes to grab whatever I wanted to grab but the CPA which clear it first. The only things I took from myself for my high school, yearbooks, and pictures of mom and I. Everything else I took were things that I wanted to make sure got to cousins so that those items will stay in our family. I have no clue where Dad is. I was told the doctor would let me know where he is once Dad has been settled in in between two and three weeks. My Dad‘s caretaker texted me saying that the CPA‘s son had advised her to not tell me where Dad is. All of this because of lies, my brother has told and taken advantage of the fact that our dad has Alzheimer’s. I spent most of 2024 calling Dad regularly and visiting him at least once a month to get our relationship somewhere close to where it was in October 2023 when the complications from Mom‘s knee replacement surgery popped up. I’ve been no contact with my brother ever since 2017, and he only keeps proving me right on that decision. What sucks is Mom eventually came to accept that and she was able to maintain her relationship with my brother and I that validated us both. Now she’s gone, and so is Dad. I’m giving myself permission to accept that I will never see that again in this life. I doubt I will be notified when he’s passed away. My brother did things to ensure that my only involvement with our Mom’s services was to simply attend, and I don’t doubt he’ll make sure I’m excluded from Dad‘s services as well. I’m going to seek therapy to start processing this grief that I don’t deserve, but here I am. I know none of this would be happening if Mom were still here and if Dad were sound in mind. I’m thankful that I have the support of family and friends, But it doesn’t change the fact that I will always miss my parents.

Posted by hollandc7 at 2025-03-26 06:14:42 UTC