In light of my brother’s ongoing efforts to continue poisoning the well between Dad and I, a few weeks ago I reached out to an attorney and this past week he sent out a cease and desist letter to him. The attorney made use of screenshots of texts that my brother had sent to me, as well as screenshots of text messages between Mom and I when we reconciled, and while she was in the hospital following the complications that arose after her knee replacement surgery. I really didn’t want to go this route, but considering Dad has Alzheimer’s, and there is talk about transitioning him into a home because he has declined even more quickly than originally predicted, I am wanting to be able to have my own relationship with him while it can be had before he passes away. As I read the attorney’s letter there were aspects that did bring up the painful memories again, but it also felt vindicating to see an outside entity expressing the things that they were towards my brother and his abusive behavior towards me. My next step is to use my legal resources to find out the status of my parents’ trust, what my rights are with my Dad, and ensure that my brother didn’t make any changes to the trust that he would benefit from in light of the fact, he could only attempt them after Mom passed with Dad being an unreliable witness. I hate to say that about him, as the Alzheimer’s has completely stolen who he is as a smart, witty, thoughtful, and caring man. While there are aspects of me that are still angry with what my brother has done, there are parts of me that can only feel sorry for him in light of the fact that once Dad passes away, and our parents estate has been sorted out, that is all he will have. His words and actions have completely isolated himself from everyone else in our family while I have amazing relationships with each one of them. I know what I have is entirely what Mom hoped for, and what my brother is doing totally rejects all of that. At the core of things, I don’t care if my brother were to end up with everything of our parents. All I’ve wanted is a relationship with Dad and his efforts to try and steal that away from me hurts like nothing else. I hope that this letter actually scares him as I am sure he does not know I have access to the resources that I do because his lifestyle is more affluent than mine. Regardless all I can do is take the next indicated step in both my healing and life

Posted by hollandc7 at 2025-02-10 06:09:02 UTC