Putting this out there for others who experienced some trauma after their loved one passed away: I’ve been able to take some time since Mom passed to pursue healing and therapy on my grief journey. The first two months I couldn’t grieve because I was on crisis mode and walking on eggshells because of my brother. In the last few days I’ve been remembering things from Mom’s last week that made me realize the things my brother did to exclude me started before Mom passed - not after. Things that I never would have done to him, yet he did to me (and trust me, there are things he did that I could have but didn’t out of respect for his relationship with Mom). As a result I’m experiencing anger towards him and experiencing new layers of grief for Mom that I know are because I’ve been able to heal so I can grieve in the ways that I need to that would be for anyone. Has anyone else experienced something like this, where with time and a bit of distance you’re able to make connections that couldn’t be made at the time because of the whirlwind that sudden loss brings? Thanks, all

Posted by hollandc7 at 2024-09-02 23:24:44 UTC