Yesterday I had a newer friend over that was talking about how difficult her year has been, a big move, broken friendships and a break up. She’s so sweet but she talked about her problems most of the time. Then she said to me “I’m sure you’ve felt very similar, you get it.” I’ve had a tough time listening to people tell me how hard their lives are but this convo hit different. As you all know, there is no comparison. The pain of loss cannot be compared to other hardships we walk through. I just sat there and listened and didn’t really know what to say because that was the first time that’s happened. I felt strange about the idea of correcting her because I haven’t known her long. It was just weird and the interaction left me feeling crappy. I don’t know if people say these things because they’re trying to relate to you & don’t know what to say or if they genuinely don’t realize that losing someone is a pain so deep that cannot be compared to other difficulties we face.🤷🏻‍♀️

Posted by Newella at 2022-07-12 11:03:58 UTC