Hello, I came across Untangle via Instagram and this is my first post. I don't usually participate in forums with people I don't know, but after losing my dad I'm finding it difficult to speak to anyone about how I'm really feeling because most people (those who haven't lost a parent), as much as they try, just can't understand. I lost my dad on 16th March, exactly three months after he was diagnosed with a grade 4 brain tumour. Before his diagnosis, he was seemingly fit as a fiddle. He deteriorated really quickly and the tumour/brain damage meant he lost most cognitive function, and had personality changes too. In those three months I had anticipatory grief, and was grieving for who he was before. I feel like only now am I coming to terms with his deterioration, and now three months after his death it's really hitting me that he's gone. I keep having flashbacks from when he was ill, and they stop me in my tracks and I feel sick. I'm so sad that his life was cut short (he was only 74), and the sadness I feel completely consumes me. I miss him so much it hurts. I know it'll become easier to cope with, but in a way I don't want it to because I don't want him to take a back seat in my memory. I'd be interested to hear what people do to cope with the loss of their parent - I've heard some people write their parent letters, talk to them etc. I will try that but would love to hear what other people do to help them feel like their parent is still close to them. Here’s a photo of us doing what we done best - having a pint ❤️

Posted by BR2110 at 2022-06-09 13:15:46 UTC